Mother of Chaos

Julie Tittler's experience as a caregiver.

Woman Facing Away
Not everything is your fault.

It's painful isn't it? Seeing your child ill, struggling to overcome crosses which she's too young to bear: illnesses mental, physical, or emotional. It must be something you did, right? She's too young to have brought it on herself. Maybe it was something that you did or didn't do while you were pregnant. Maybe it was a medication. Maybe it's environmental. Maybe it was the partying you did in college. Maybe it was the worry and stress when you were pregnant. Maybe it's just genetic. But half the genes come from you, right? Maybe if you paid more attention you wouldn't have missed it. She's too young. It must been something you did.

A young boy climbing a wall.

This is the second of a series of posts on Julie Tittler’s experience with an experimental medication for her son’s ADHD.

We can breath! We’ve found a foothold!

In Grasping at Straws, I wrote about how we had tried every class of medication approved by the FDA for use in treating the inattentiveness and executive function deficiencies associated with ADHD. All caused my son such severe side effects that he had to be taken off of them. Fortunately, his psychiatrist, who is one of the top pediatric pharmacopsychiatrists in the world, knew of a medication approved for treating moderate to severe Alzheimer's which has been showing great promise in treating ADHD, bipolar, and autism spectrum disorders in adults, Namenda. She had used it in some severe pediatric cases to great effect and told us it was one of our last avenues of treatment. No clinical studies have been done on its use in pediatric cases. Eeep!

This companion piece to 5 Interview Questions From A Mom Seeking a Special Needs Nanny looks at the conversation from the nanny's point of view. It was written by Helen Adeosun, former nanny, educator, founder and CEO of SitterCycle. SitterCycle provides professional development for nannies, enhancing their lives and the lives of the families they care for through education.


As a nanny, teacher, and caregiver, I have had the pleasure of knowing over 200+ children and their families either through my classroom or my experiences working with them directly in their home. One of my greatest challenges in each of these roles is also the most rewarding opportunity: getting to know as much as possible about each and every child that I encounter in a very, very short amount of time. Whether it was in my classroom or in the role of the Friday night babysitter, I had to navigate successful (and not so successful) ways of bonding and connecting with children in genuine ways often to get them to learn, to finish their dinner, or to get them to bed on time.